One of the worst things any family can hear are the words "It's Alzheimer's." While advances continue to be made, the end result is the same for everyone.
Many Alzheimer's patients can be kept at home for many years, but eventually almost all will need assisted living or a nursing home.
My Mom had Alzheimer's, though she was in her 90's before its full effects surfaced. Mom's boyfriend also had it, and eventually he didn't recognize either of us, though after my Mom died I continued to visit him.
What should you do and when should you do it?
One key indicator is wandering. If Mom or Dad is leaving the house and having trouble getting back, it may be time for assisted living dementia care. If Mom or Dad no longer wants to bathe or eat, that's another indicator.
Generally, assisted living is preferred because it is the most homelike environment. Most assisted living facilities offer a floor or wing in their buildings for Alzheimer's or other dementia patients. They are usually kept separate from the assisted living population. Many of these areas are secure so that the residents can't wander. Some offer very good programs for their residents to keep their minds as active as possible. Others concentrate on keeping their residents calm.
If your family member is becoming more than you can handle, contact Carol for help. I work with many of the best facilities and can help you match your family member to the right place.